Habits that prevent you from achieving work (and personal) success
We do not know our own habits. Others have to come to tell us about them.
I met a woman who wouldn't let anyone around her finish a sentence. We will call her Maria.
Maria had a nervous tic that drove her coworkers crazy. Every time someone spoke, she cut them off. I couldn't help it. Here are some examples of their conversations:
Jorge, María's partner: Ok Maria, the report looks good but we have yet to add a pie chart showing sales by region. I think Carlos has the data, but if he didn't have it, then -
Maria: After the veins by region pie chart, what else does the report need?
George: I was going to tell you that if Carlos didn't have the data, Cristina should have it. Once you add the graphic, all we need -
Maria: Cristina is still on vacation, I wrote to her yesterday and received her auto-reply message as a reply.
George: Okay, well let's do it if Carlos can help us. I was trying to tell you that after adding the graph, we only need the list of new accounts opened this quarter, which you can get at -
Maria: All new accounts, or only national ones?
George: All new accounts. You can get them from the reports, but you have to specify -
Maria: Who can help me with those reports? I've never had to do any.
George: I better send you an email. I find it very difficult to finish a thought.
Maria: Sure, send me an email!
Maria's boss finally decided to inform her of his irritating mania for not letting his colleagues finish sentences and preventing them from saying what they wanted to say. Maria even told me: “I had no idea he would do that. My mind moves at one speed and my mouth at a totally different one ”.
We all have habits that bring out the best in us, but we have probably also dragged nervous habits for yearss. They can appear always or simply when we are stressed.
Here are 10 nervous habits that could damage your relationships and slow down your career development:
1. The habit of multitasking when you should be concentrating on the person you are interacting with, and the words they are saying.
Put your phone away, look at the face of whoever is talking to you and focus on what they are saying.
2. The habit of saying saying "sorry" automatically when there's nothing you have to apologize for.
Many people fall into the trap of apologizing for things that are not their fault - just to make their boss or someone else feel better. They ask for forgiveness almost as if it were something automatic. So dont do it!
If someone feels bad, you can tell them: That sounds frustrating. Let's talk about how to fix it ". You are not to blame for everything that goes wrong.
3. The habit of saying "yes" every time a partner asks for your help.
It's great to be helpful, but if you're always available to save people who don't take responsibility for their own tasks, you're going to end badly. You will end up exhausted, the person you helped will not learn to fend for himself or herself, And worst of all: your time and attention will be constantly devalued if you always have them available.
You have to get used to smiling and saying: “I am sure that you will find a way to solve this obstacle - you are a very intelligent person ".
4. The habit of taking work home.
Many people take work home because they don't know how to finish their day job and change their mind to a new channel. It's a skill that we should all practice! When you have completely finished your work for the day, stop.
5. The habit of judging your job success or failure based on the emotional state of your boss.
Bosses are people. They go up and down emotionally like any of us. It's nice when your boss is happy with you But you can have a great day, week, or month even when your boss is in a bad mood. Separate your own emotions from his.
6. The habit of ending sentences with "if you agree" or "If you think it's okay".
You can allow yourself to affirm something if you feel very confident about it. You don't have to wait for confirmation or denial like you think "Well, if it's different, that's fine too."
Defend your ideas and words as they deserve. If you are very sure of something, allow yourself to affirm it without waiting for the agreement of others.
7. The habit of allowing people to interrupt you in your work
You have every right to say "I'm in the middle of a project and I can't stop, but I'll call you when I'm done."
8. The habit of responding to every text and email the moment you receive it, regardless of the time of day.
We train the people around us. You will accustom your colleagues to respect your limits, or you will get used to stepping on them (since it seems that you don't even respect them, there you).
9. The habit of skipping lunch to get a little more work done.
If you can not take a break to recharge the batteriess once a day, how do you plan to do it throughout your professional career?
10. The habit of avoiding conflict by saying "Whatever you want" to people when you really don't agree.
Over time you will get tired of allowing people to influence you. You have a voice. Now is a good time to use it!
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