Human Resources

10 keys to being happy at work

Here are 10 things you should never do at work if you want to be happy. These are very common mistakes that we make frequently. It is not only a matter of being happier in the company, but also of being effective in your work, of generating fewer conflicts and problems, of strengthening your teams and your professional relationships in general. In these times of crisis,having a job is a blessing, so it supposes economic income, social status and emotional stability. However, More than 50% of people They are not happy in their jobs.

In Hebrew, the word "work" (avoda) has the same root as the word "slave" (eved). Many of us have no choice but work to live. So if we can't afford to quit, for whatever reason, or we just don't want to quit work, What can we do to make it more enjoyable for us?

I like to read about happiness. One of my favorite books isEarn happinessby Tal Ben-Shahar. In it, there is a whole chapter dedicated to the happiness at work. Sometimes happiness in professional and personal life is not a matter of adding, but of subtracting.Stopping doing a number of things we can be happier in our work (and in our life).

If you want to be happier at work you CANNOT ...

1. Blame others

The fault is not always with the suppliers, the external service, the clients, the weather, the country or the government. Sometimes the fault is ours. Stop blaming what happens to the crisis, "the thing" or the politicians. Seize the day. Go out and see what your customers need. Talk to them. Stop thinking that it is others who are to blame. Take your responsibility. That will help you improve. And if you improve, you will be happier.

2. Try to impress others

Nobody wants you for your clothes or for your car or for your house. Possessions are fine but they are not critical to business. People may like how you dress or comment on the model of car or phone you look like, but that doesn't translate into more orders. Genuine relationships are not built on superficial elements.

3. Getting too attached to things

The moment you get too attached to things, people or money you screw it up. The challenge is to appreciate everything and not get attached to anything (Andrew Mathews, author of the best-sellingPlease be happy).

4. Interrupt others

When someone is interrupted, what you are really saying is: "I am not listening to understand what you are saying, I am listening to you to be able to speak my opinion." Do you want to know what people, your customers, your suppliers want? Listen to what they say. Focus on what they say. Ask questions to make sure you understand what they are saying.

5. Complain

Complainers are wasting time acting. Complain less and act more. It is common sense. Complaining about your problems makes you feel worse, not better. If something is wrong, don't waste time complaining. Make an effort to improve the situation. Don't be talking all the time about what is wrong. Talk about how you're going to make things better, even if that conversation is just with yourself.

6. Over-controlling others

If you treat people like adults, they will respond to you like adults. If you treat people like children, they will respond to you like children. Control is usually short term and does not usually work if it is a pressure measurement. In your company, establish the general operating bases (schedules, breaks, obligations), explain the reasons why things are done that way and trust people without ceasing to be aware. But don't let too much control derail you from your true goals. If you are an entrepreneur, your mission is not only to control your employees.

7. Criticize others

Everyone is different, not better, not worse, just different. Appreciating the differences rather than the shortcomings will put you in a privileged position with both your coworkers and your employees. If you disagree with the attitude of a colleague or an employee, criticizing him is just wasting time and creating a negative environment that does not help at all. And it prevents you from being happy.

8. Give advice without being asked

If people don't ask for your advice, don't waste time giving it. They are generally not interested in information. Your mission in life is not to change people.

9. Holding on to the past

The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. So let go and face the present and the future. In business you are as good, at times, as your last job. Do not cling to the past and you will gain happiness.

10. Be afraid

We are all afraid: of what may or may not happen, of what we cannot change or of what we will not be able to do. We are afraid of how other people perceive us. Sometimes the fear disappears after taking the first step. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is acting despite fear.

Video: The Ten Keys to Happier Living. Vanessa King. TEDxStPeterPort (November 2020).